
The 8 principles that changed my life
Self-love is possible
I know what it feels like to be in a dark place—questioning your worth, feeling lost, and wondering if you’ll ever truly love yourself. I’ve been there. And I won’t sugarcoat it—healing takes work. But I promise you, if you commit to yourself, if you show up every day and apply these 8 principles, self-love isn’t just possible—it’s inevitable.
These aren’t just words; they’re the foundation that pulled me out of my lowest moments and into a life of confidence, peace, and self-acceptance. You don’t have to have it all figured out today. You just have to take the first step. I’m here to help you do that.
D8 yourself
You are enough just as you are
Believe
Core Principle: Whether you believe you can or can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford
Action Steps: Identify limiting beliefs and rewrite them into empowering ones. Develop faith in your abilities and your potential to overcome challenges. Explore belief in a higher power or greater purpose if it resonates with you.
Reflection: What beliefs are holding you back? What would you achieve if you believed in yourself fully?
Outcome: A life of limitless possibilities and the courage to conquer challenges.
Truth
Core Principle: Speak honestly with yourself. Stop lying to yourself.
Action Steps: Identify areas where your actions contradict your words. Reflect on what you tell yourself and ask: “Do I fully believe this?” Commit to confronting uncomfortable truths and embracing honesty.
Reflection: Are there beliefs about yourself that feel untrue? How can you align your actions with your words?
Outcome: The truth will set you free, creating clarity and authenticity in your life.
Authenticity
Core Principle: Learn to be yourself again.
Action Steps: Remove the “mask” you wear to please others. Question societal norms and expectations that feel confining. Engage in activities that bring you joy, as if you were a kid again.
Reflection: What parts of your personality are you hiding? What makes you truly smile?
Outcome: Peace with who you are and the freedom to live joyfully and authentically.
Respect
Core Principle: If you can’t respect yourself, how can you expect others to respect you?
Action Steps: Keep your promises, even small ones, to build self-trust. Adjust goals to be achievable and stack small wins to build momentum. Hold yourself accountable to your word.
Reflection: Do you follow through on your commitments to yourself? What’s one small promise you can keep today?
Outcome: Self-respect through reliability and consistency.
Perspective
Core Principle: Operate at a higher frequency by reframing negative thoughts.
Action Steps: Catch negative self-talk and reframe it positively (e.g., “I’m glad I remembered” instead of “I’m so forgetful”). Practice self-compassion and speak kindly to yourself. Use affirmations to train your brain to see the positive.
Reflection: How can you reframe a negative thought into a positive one?
Outcome: Higher vibrations and a mindset that supports personal growth and self-love.
Gratitude
Core Principle: Be thankful for everything, even discomfort.
Action Steps: Write a daily gratitude list to focus on your blessings. Thank yourself for accomplishing difficult or uncomfortable tasks, no matter how small. Shift your focus from lack to abundance by appreciating what you have.
Reflection: What can you be grateful for today?
Outcome: A positive, abundant mindset will attract more things to be grateful for.
Opportunity
Core Principle: Constantly seek opportunity, especially with negative events.
Action Steps: Ask yourself, “Where is the opportunity?” Practice turning setbacks into lessons or stepping stones. Become the alchemist of your mind by transitioning negative thoughts to positive thoughts.
Reflection: How can you turn a setback into an opportunity? How can you grow from a given opportunity?
Outcome: Escape the victim mindset and become the hero of your own story. Be proud and remember your accomplishments.
Challenge
Core Principle: Growth comes from doing things outside your comfort zone.
Action Steps: Identify an uncomfortable task and do it. View challenges as a tool for growth. Push beyond your comfort zone consistently.
Reflection: Can you not do it, or do you not want to do it?
Outcome: Breakthroughs in personal growth and new possibilities. Prove to yourself that you are capable of anything your put your mind to.
Living these principles every day
Knowledge is powerful. Action is life-changing.
Reading these principles is one thing—living them is another. Real transformation happens in the moments you choose to show up for yourself, even when it’s hard. It happens when you catch yourself falling into old patterns and decide to do something different. That’s where the real work—and the real growth—begins.
Here are some ways to bring these principles into your daily life:
You don’t have to master this overnight. Just take it one step at a time. I can’t stress this enough.. Keep showing up! Keep believing! I can’t wait to hear your accomplishments.

